Quick, answer this question with the first number that comes to mind:

CoinsCoinsCoinsHow much money do you think you need to feel rich?

Of course, you may argue, there’s more to being rich than having money—there’s love, health, freedom, etc. All true. But for the purpose of this blog, and in the spirit of research, let’s stick with the original question that recently appeared in The Wall Street Journal: How much money does it take to be rich?

According to the article—which was excerpted from Robert Frank’s blog, The Wealth Report—no one can seem to agree about the amount of money that makes you rich.

According to the Federal Reserve, you’re in the top 5% of Americans if you have a networth of $1.4 million. But when Spectrem Group asked affluent people that question, only 22% said $1 million makes you rich. The majority (45%) said it took at least $5 million to qualify. A quarter of the respondents swore that you need a minimum of $25 million. A few (8%) even put the winning number at $100 million. Still, other studies have shown that people “always give a number that is twice their current networth or income. Those with $100,000 in income say $200,000, while those worth $5 million say $10 million.”

I thought about what I’d say, and realized the term “rich” is so relative, it’d be impossible to come up with a universally accepted number. The best definition I’ve ever seen for “rich” was the one I used in my first book, Prince Charming Isn’t Coming. I forget who said it, but it goes like this: “rich is when you work because you want to, not because you have to.”

That makes a lot of sense to me. Anyone have a better definition than that??


GivePhilanthropy is usually the least thought out, most disorganized part of our financial activities. We know charitable contributions save us taxes.

But the question we rarely ask is: How can I maximize not only my tax benefits but the power that philanthropy gives me?

The more thought and planning you give to your charitable donations, the more—so to speak—bang you get from your buck—financially, socially, emotionally.

To this end, I put together Six Principles of Powerful Philanthropy:

1. Educate yourself financially. The number one reason women don’t give more is lack of knowledge. No matter how much money a woman has, if she’s afraid, insecure, and/or ignorant around money, she’ll be restrained in her giving . In a recent study, 73% of women felt that passing money to children and causes is important, but only 14% have conducted detailed financial planning to ensure an effective wealth transfer.

2. Get your financial house in order, with your spouse. Review your finances regularly. Smart money management follows 4 rules:

  • Spend less
  • Save more
  • Invest wisely
  • Give generously

These rules must be followed in this order. Giving without following the first three rules is an act of self sabotage. Not only do you jeopardize your future security, but you diminish the impact you can make with your money.

3. See yourself as a philanthropist in your own right. Too many women think it’s their husband’s money, so charitable donations are his responsibility. But women outlive their spouse and will ultimately be in charge of the family estate. Another reason women don’t engage in planned giving is because, if they’re not a Carnegie or Rockefeller, they don’t think they have enough. Not so. Small amounts can add up to big changes.

4. Give serious thought to the legacy you want to leave. I once saw a poster with the word: “will it matter that I was?” Ask yourself: How do I want people to remember me? What changes would I like to see in the world. What do I value most? Does my giving reflect my values?

5. Work with professionals. Figuring out how much is possible and advantageous to give is a complex issue. It should be a team effort. Find reputable estate planners, attorneys, financial advisors, accountants. Studies show, however, 9 out of 10 people don’t mention charities in their will. So if a professional doesn’t bring it up, you be sure to.

6. Make it a family affair. Use philanthropy as a way to teach kinds about values, money management, and life goals.

The most powerful philanthropists are not the ones with the highest net worth. They are the ones who are financially educated, financially secure, and passionate about a cause.